Starting Over:
Hey guys. I am starting to realize that I am not having success with women because I am obsessed with them. Sure, having a few ladies at your side (with more at your beck-and-call) is a dream for many. I am beginning to realize that obsession breeds fear (which hinders success). I believed the fear of failure would motivate me to become more comfortable around women. I had the mindset to only approach HB8s, 9s and 10s. As a result, I passed up on many opportunities to practice and develop my game. When I see an HB9 or 10, I tense up. When I see an HB6, I go numb. Sure, I believe it is crucial for men to have dating preferences when it comes to women. I also believe that when learning pickup, its good to have test subjects. 9s and 10s are so incredibly hard (or expensive) to find, one would easily drain their resources in search of girls to approach. My new mindset is going to be to approach or converse with everyone. Conversation skills are important when it comes to developing game.
Motivation:
Motivation is a key element when it comes to pursuing a particular goal. Often times, the goal, itself, is not enough to catapult you into the winner's circle. It is often a good practice to consider your motivation. One thing that I chose to do recently, was to write down my motivations for pursuing the world of pickup. Upon writing down my reasons for pursuing the lifestyle, I became rejuvenated with an intense vigor to attain success.
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Hey guys, I am 23, and have found little love with the ladies. Sure, I'm no virgin, but I am experiencing a dry spell that has lasted far too long. I always felt that I had potential for success with ladies, but I never achieved much success. Upon learning more about the PUA culture, I decided to embark on a journey to become successful in pickup. I am not simply trying to become successful with women, I am trying to change my lifestyle and become my best self. Join me on this journey as we delve into the intricacies of the female mind, while learning evermore about ourselves.
P-Swagg
P-Swagg
Where the hell are they?
This Week:
I have come to the realization that this game is not nearly as easy as many dating coaches claim it to be. This week, I made it my mission to meet local girls by visiting local, low-key environments. I visited places such as Wall-Mart, Barnes & Noble, and Target, looking for girls to approach. To my amazement, I found few worth approaching. I went the entire week without any successful approaches. This can't be good for that New Years resolution of mine.
Saturday:
Considering my lack of success at low-key environments, I decided to go with a friend to a local pub/lounge. I was hit with approach anxiety as soon as I entered the place. After hanging around and scoping out the scene, my friend finally laid eyes on a girl he wanted to approach. I told him to go for it. As minutes began to pass, He instructed me to instead go for the approach. As time began to further accumulate, I reluctantly decided on the now-or-never moment.
Success?:
I approached the HB7:
"Hi, excuse me, you just caught my attention. I had to come over and introduce myself... I'm Fred."
The RJ direct method worked. I could tell she was interested in me because the conversation flowed smoothly. I did not have nearly enough game to overcome the awkward first five minutes otherwise. Sure, she did begin referencing her boyfriend at least once every 10 minutes; I still felt her attraction towards me. She left for the bathroom, and came back to approach me. I'm sure that's a clear indicator of interest.
I established kino, bounced her around the club, (sure the fact that her friend was lip-locked with another girl helped) and demonstrated counter-intuitiveness. I asked for her number half-way through the interaction. She declined, stating that she had a jealous boyfriend. I joked about this, and kept the interaction flowing. Towards the end of the night, I again attempted the number close to no avail. A passionate hug, a kiss on the cheek, but no digits?
If I can't do it, it can't be done:
I told my friend the story as we were leaving the club. He told me he could get her number, and went back into the club. He came out in about 10 minutes saying he got her number, and verified that it was hers. He told me humor and persistence go a long way.
I have come to the realization that this game is not nearly as easy as many dating coaches claim it to be. This week, I made it my mission to meet local girls by visiting local, low-key environments. I visited places such as Wall-Mart, Barnes & Noble, and Target, looking for girls to approach. To my amazement, I found few worth approaching. I went the entire week without any successful approaches. This can't be good for that New Years resolution of mine.
Saturday:
Considering my lack of success at low-key environments, I decided to go with a friend to a local pub/lounge. I was hit with approach anxiety as soon as I entered the place. After hanging around and scoping out the scene, my friend finally laid eyes on a girl he wanted to approach. I told him to go for it. As minutes began to pass, He instructed me to instead go for the approach. As time began to further accumulate, I reluctantly decided on the now-or-never moment.
Success?:
I approached the HB7:
"Hi, excuse me, you just caught my attention. I had to come over and introduce myself... I'm Fred."
The RJ direct method worked. I could tell she was interested in me because the conversation flowed smoothly. I did not have nearly enough game to overcome the awkward first five minutes otherwise. Sure, she did begin referencing her boyfriend at least once every 10 minutes; I still felt her attraction towards me. She left for the bathroom, and came back to approach me. I'm sure that's a clear indicator of interest.
I established kino, bounced her around the club, (sure the fact that her friend was lip-locked with another girl helped) and demonstrated counter-intuitiveness. I asked for her number half-way through the interaction. She declined, stating that she had a jealous boyfriend. I joked about this, and kept the interaction flowing. Towards the end of the night, I again attempted the number close to no avail. A passionate hug, a kiss on the cheek, but no digits?
If I can't do it, it can't be done:
I told my friend the story as we were leaving the club. He told me he could get her number, and went back into the club. He came out in about 10 minutes saying he got her number, and verified that it was hers. He told me humor and persistence go a long way.
1/5/2011
Shedding the fear
The Story:
Last night, I decided it would be a great idea to go to go to the local mall in search of girl to approach. After a long day of work, I went home to change and prepare myself for the hunt. By the time I arrived at the mall, I realized it was not long till closing time. Sure the mall wasn't set to close for another hour, yet the mall seemed duller than usual for the time of day. I convinced myself that the fewer numbers of available candidates would only increase my success rate.
As I entered the Macy's department store, I noticed an HB8 from afar with a clipboard near coach bags. Sure she was an employee, but I figured she was fair game. I approached her by asking if she worked in the COACH department. She told me she was a general manager, but I continued on my thread of conversation. I asked her about purses that would match my sneakers and hats. The look on her face was classic. I apparently do not have the gay vibe going on, so she was confused--wondering whether or not to take me seriously. After a pause, I told her I was joking, welcoming a relived, humorous look from her. At this moment I realized that I was not attracted to her. She had far too much makeup on, and painted on eyebrows (in my mind, she went from an HB8 to an HB6). I established kino with a lingering handshake, while complimenting her sense of humor. For some reason, I was not compelled to go in for a number close.
The rest of the night went much like this. I only approached three female mall associates-- many of which were busy with their prior engagements. I did not approach any female patrons. As I don't have to work today, my goal is to go out on the prowl, hoping for better results.
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