What am I afraid of?
I should mention that this past Friday night, my confidence level was at an all-time low. I decided I would go to a local bar/ lounge with a dance floor. I was unable to make a single, successful approach. My club game normally consists of me going to a girl, and asking her if she would like to dance. If she declined my invitation, my fall-back option would be to ask why she wasn't dancing. My club game typically includes the most cliche AFC questions. I would ask girls if they were enjoying herself, how their night was going, or if they came to the venue often. Clearly this approach seldom resulted in either a number close or a prolonged interaction.
This Friday night venue was the type of venue that fosters conversation. Despite having a dance floor and loud music, the venue allows for people to have conversations anywhere in the place. This should have been a positive attribute of the lounge, however it worked against me. As I lacked confidence in my game, I was unsuccessful at approaching a single girl in the venue. I noticed a fellow AFC get rejected by this local girl (they used the lesbian line), so I decided she was ripe for the picking. I attempted to approach her from the side while lightly touching her arm, yet she seemed not to notice. I tried again; this time I used a little more force while saying "Excuse me." As you can imagine, this failed to lend me a captive audience. She shrugged her shoulder and turned away from me. Any guy that has been in this situation knows this is the equivalent of a slap in the face. Sure, conventional logic dictates that we not take it personal. I still say its pretty hard to ignore getting slapped in the face without at least rubbing your cheek.
My lack of success with the HB8 on the dance floor was enough to render me impotent for the night. Sure I tried to approach other girls in the club, yet they yielded similar results. After the harsh rejection, I was done for the night. My confidence was low, and all of the other girls knew it.
Solution:
In reading The Mystery Method, I have come to realize the importance of preparedness. Mystery would write down his PUA routines. If he found himself in an interaction in which he was at a loss for words, he would later write down potential comebacks or responses. I purchased two notebooks. One notebook is going to serve as a sort of journal or diary to document my experiences. The second notebook is going to be for routines and responses. My goal is to write down select interactions to determine how best I can use my words to control, or be better prepared for various situations.